The importance of the power of parents believing in their ADHD children cannot be understated. Children not only derive their being from their parents, they also derive their belief in themselves from them too. It is hard for them to filter out the false messages, prejudices, and misunderstandings that cloud and obstruct their accurate view of, and belief in, themselves and their potential. Parents, however, can accurately see these things in their children. They not only provide the sustenance and shelter that their children need to live and grow, they also need to provide an accurate perception of self and potential which is necessary for a child to grow and develop to their greatest potential.
As a practitioner of psychology, with a specialization in helping individuals with ADHD, for over 18 years, I have seen first-hand the terrible damage done to ADHD children’s self-concept by misjudging teachers, grades, and other children. It is heartbreaking to see these children who don’t believe in themselves at all, believe they are “bad” or unintelligent, and have given up on themselves. As these children will perform and act out this erroneous self-concept, it must be a parent’s top priority to counteract this.
Lisa Aro, a mother of five children with ADHD, addresses this problem touchingly and accurately in her recent article about her ADHD children. In addition to the paramount importance of believing in her children, Lisa lists the measures she has taken to help them with their ADHD. It goes without saying that correcting the disorder would be one of the most important things a parent could do for their children. There is a non-drug and side effect free method of correcting ADHD. Neurofeedback treatment corrects the disorder permanently. Once treatment is complete, no further sessions are necessary. Once the disorder is corrected, in addition to the parent’s proper and assuring belief in them, the child starts to receive the same positive messages from their experiences at school and elsewhere. This will repair the ADHD child’s self-concept or self-esteem.
A child’s hope is a magical thing, a precious commodity, and it must not be squandered. For a period of time, children will believe that a problem can be solved. It is critical to act within that time period. When a parent combines belief in their ADHD child, with actually removing the obstacle to their achieving their true potential, a very powerful thing can start to happen. What is truly magical to see is the positive snowball that begins to roll when belief in oneself, within the ADHD child, is followed by growing successes.
Parents Power of Belief in their ADHD Child