Parents… Of ADHD Children
Almost everything written about ADHD (ADD) in children is, understandably, about the problems of children with this disorder. There is, however, another significant problem associated with ADHD in children (aside from the fact that ADHD, often being genetic, may also reside in one or both parents). That problem is the ramifications of the disorder to the parents and family of the child with ADHD.
The types of problems faced depend on the type of ADHD involved. There are three sub-types of ADHD: Primarily Inattentive, Hyperactive-Impulsive, and Combined. Whichever the type, however, these problems run the gamut (or should I say “the gauntlet”) from; parents losing their much needed evening’s rest and relaxation due to “homework wars”, the child’s unnecessary fighting with siblings and parents, calls and notes sent home from the teacher/principal…to; fights with spouse over how to manage the problems, not enough time spent with the other children, constantly cleaning up after them, fighting to get them out of the house in the morning and into bed a night! And then weekends are always fun too (or not!)
On top of all this, lies the parent’s worry for the academic and social success of their child, and his or her happiness and self-esteem.
Let’s look at a couple of typical scenarios, and see if they describe scenes in your home. It’s homework time (if that hasn’t been given up entirely). We begin with a struggle to understand (guess) what needs to be done, and to see if the materials have actually been brought home. Then the lucky parent gets to try to manage the distraction filled (real and imaginary), excuse ridden, stop and start, struggle. All the while trying to attend to the other kids, prepare dinner, answer the phone, and not go crazy. Then, the other parent may arrive home, which, in a way, starts the process all over again. Everyone gets tired, tempers flare, fingers get pointed, feelings get hurt, people give up (on themselves, and the process).
Another sad scenario is the parents’s discussion amongst themselves about the problem. Some parents deny that there is a problem. This is often, but not always, a father’s position. Dads typically are quicker to deny that there is anything wrong with their child. I know this not only professionally, but also as a father myself. Whether it’s because we see our children so much as an extension of ourselves (and we’re perfect, aren’t we?), or for some other reason, this position misses the problem (and any hope for solving it) and results in more finger pointing, hurt feelings, and giving up.
Sound familiar?… Unfortunately, even when the real problem is recognized, parents often understandably resist testing and treatment due to the fear of medication, with its frequent side effects and rigors. There is, fortunately, an alternative to this scenario.
Neurofeedback is a highly effective, drug free, safe, non-invasive and painless procedure in which the child this area of the brain, correcting the problem. Once training is complete, no further treatment is necessary.
To request information on the treatment of Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD, ADHD), Mild to Moderate Autism Spectrum Disorders, Sleep Disorders, Chronic Depression, Chronic Anxiety, and Peak Performance Training contact:Dr. Stephen A. Ferrari Alta Neuro-Imaging Neurofeedback 1075 Yorba Place Suite 105 Placentia, CA 92870 714.990.6536